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Hi, I'm Tina and I'm Emma. And if there's one
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thing we've learned and over twenty years of parenting.
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Some days you're gonna feel like killing your mom.
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And some days you might feel like killing your kid.
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Welcome to Love, Mary kill Well, Hi Emma, Hi Mom.
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I'm so glad that you're here.
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I'm happy to be here.
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Because you were like, I'm not doing that again.
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Well, I know it wasn't your first choice, and you're wife.
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The guest you wanted is unavailable, but that's not true.
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I'm just as happy to have you. But brother has
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never done it before, so I did kind of want brother.
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But brother is editing the podcast, so he's also involved.
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So how have you been in this last year.
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You've had a lot of changes, A lot of life
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changes have happened.
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Last year.
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When we left off, you were just graduating from college.
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Yeah, I graduated and I started my new job, which
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I've been at for a year. Now. I'm teaching at
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a preschool. You've learned a lot. You could say that
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some days it doesn't feel like it, but anyway, I
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just got back from work and it's been a long day,
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but I'm still kind of in preschool teacher mode, So
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I'm trying to keep that enthusiasm going for you.
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You've taught me a lot in your year of preschool,
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and sometimes it makes me laugh. You use your preschool
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teacherness on me.
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I do, yes, Like if I get angry, you'll say, oh,
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you're having a big emotion. I don't necessarily say that,
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but I think the thing I've learned the most about
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is problem solving. So yes, that can be a really
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useful skill to use on your friends and family. Yeah,
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or sometimes you might take a beat instead of reacting
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like a knee jerk reaction. Yeah, you could say that
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as I always tell the kids, take a big breath.
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Yeah, and then respond, well, we have a lot of
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listeners with young children. What would be your best advice
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to parents of young children.
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My best piece of advice, I feel like, would be
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just let them play and let them be kids, because
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when they're playing, they're learning so much about their environment
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and themselves. So I'm not gonna get on a soapbox here,
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but you have a lot of parents that are worried
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about learning like letters and words, and your advice is
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always to not worry about that until later. Yeah, there's
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no rush. I mean, read them lots of books. Make
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them love reading, because that's maybe the most important skill
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they're going to carry on and teach them to love
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school because they're going to be in school for a
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long time. So have fun with it while you can.
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That is very good advice. You're very wise. Yeah, I
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mean have fun at every stage in life, but especially preschool. Absolutely.
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Why did make you a snack? I made a special
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Emma snack. Do you want to guess what it might be?
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Is it something lemony? It might be lemone.
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I made you some lemon white chocolate cookies. Remember the
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Levon Bakery cookies.
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Yes, this is a knockoff from Levan recipe. Or you look?
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You look very excited. I really am. You know lemon
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desserts are my favorite. Well, we'll try this really quickly
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and we'll be right back. So what did you think
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of the cookie? It was delicious. I feel like if
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there was one cookie in the world made for me,
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this would be it.
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Aw I saw the recipe a few weeks ago. I'd
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even dying to make them for you because I was
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hoping that you would like them.
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Well, it was amazing, So thank you so much. What
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would you rate it? Nine point five out of ten? Wow? Okay,
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all right, what would I have to do to get
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a ten? Honestly, if it was fresh out of the oven,
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it might be a ten. Oh okay, all right, Well
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we will post the recipe just as a side note.
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I think I double the amount of lemon zest. And
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I might have doubled the amount of lemon because the
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recipe suggested lemon extract and we didn't have any, But
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you got the lemon essence out of the cookie. Yeah,
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I think it was just enough.
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So what do you have planned for me for Mother's Day?
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Well, we asked you, and to be honest, I'm not
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really sure. I mean, I know we're going to clean
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the house. You're a really good cleaner. Maybe we'll go
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for a walk, thank you, I do.
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Aren't you going to admit what you're actually doing on
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Mother's Day? Are you too embarrassed?
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Oh? Goodness, well, I'm not embarrassed about it, but it
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is kind of weird that I'm going to this wedding
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and I'm just a plus one and when I was invited,
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I didn't realize that it was on Mother's Day.
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Yeah, it's a little weird to get married on Mother's Day.
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Right, and on a Sunday too. I mean, I'm not
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trying to trash these people that were nice enough to
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have me at their wedding, but yeah.
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Till everyone like the other weird thing about the wedding, Well.
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There is a list of suggested colors to wear, and
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it's all things like coral or salmon, dusty rose.
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And you're also a red pine and bravery. We're both
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pale redheads, and those aren't like the best colors for us, right.
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None of them will look good. And I mean except
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for ivory maybe, but I'm not gonna wear ivory to
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someone's wedding, Like, that's so close to white. What are
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you going to wear? And it's formal too, right, Yes,
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it's it's formal. I will be wearing a blue dress,
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which I feel like is the opposite end of the
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spectrum of all of those colors, but it's one of
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the few colors I feel confident in. So sorry, well,
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I have no doubt that you will look beautiful and
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you'll have a wonderful time. Well, thank you, but you
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know I'll be missing you every second nail you will
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I'll request one of your favorite songs. What do you
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want daydream Believer?
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Sure that would be a great one. All right, are
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you ready to get into the case.
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Yes, yes I am. I just nodded, but I forgot
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I had to talk. Well, I'm going to tell you
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a really horrible story, and I apologize to everyone listening.
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I didn't realize how brutal and graphic this story was
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until I was kind of knee deep into the research.
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My primary source for this episode is a book called
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Let's Kill Momana Fielder, and she did a very good
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job telling the story. Donna changed several people's names in
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the story, and I didn't want to reveal their identities
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because they didn't want their identities revealed. So I'm just
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staying with the names that Donna used, and those.
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Names are Amy White, Merrily White, Kate Morton, and Steven Morton.
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And again to warn you, this is a hard, one,
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very graphic story.
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Well, you know, true crime isn't really my favorite thing
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to listen to, yeah, in my free time, but I
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don't know. Something about you telling it to me makes
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it a little more palatable.
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But okay, I appreciate that you have been a huge
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supporter of our podcast. You and your brother are both
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and we are very grateful for both of you.
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Oh well, I'm happy to be a love Mary kill
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nepo baby. Sorry, all right, let's get into it.
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On September twenty eighth, two thousand and eight, the small
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town of Roanoke, Texas, woke to a tragedy almost too
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brutal to believe it would shake the community to its core.
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Susan Bailey, forty three, a single mother who juggled two
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jobs and several side hustles to keep her family afloat,
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was found murdered inside her home, the place she had
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fought so hard to build, maintain, and hang on to
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for her children. Police had been by several times days
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earlier to do welfare checks, but no one ever answered
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the door. Susan was found that morning, lying face down
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on the carpeted hallway of her home. It appeared that
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she had been lying there for several days, as the
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blood surrounding the outline of her body was dried and crusted,
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the smell of death hanging heavily in the air. Rigor
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mortis had set in and had almost completely left her body,
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indicating that she had been there for at least twenty
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four hours since her death, and likely more than forty
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eight liver mortis had settled into her face and abdomen.
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She had a contusion over her left eye from blunt
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force trauma. A ragged neck wound seemed to be the
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source of the blood spatter, but later it was learned
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that she'd been stabbed more than twenty times and her
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throat had deep slash wounds. Not far from Susan's body
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was a bathroom where three cell phones and a butcher's
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knife were found at the bottom of the bathtub, filled
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with several.
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Inches of water.
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There was no sign of forest entry or signs of
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an intruder. It wasn't a stranger who ended Susan's life.
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It was her own daughter, seventeen year old Jennifer, along
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with Jennifer's troubled boyfriend, Paul, sixteen, and Susan's youngest child, David,
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just thirteen, whose innocent face masked a growing storm inside.
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Paul was no ordinary teenager. He had a history of violence,
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a disturbing obsession with death, and claimed he'd once been
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an executioner in a past life. David, still just a boy,
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was floundering in school, acting out and wrestling with behavioral
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issues that no one had managed to rein in. He too,
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played a role in the murder of his mother. Susan
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and Jennifer had fought often. Money was tight, tensions were high.
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Susan's long hours away at work left the kids too
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much time, too little suits, provision, and simmering resentments. One night,
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it all boiled over after Susan's succumbed to her injuries.
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The teenagers fled, stealing her car, taking the family dog,
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and heading north to South Dakota, as if distance could
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erase what they had done. But beneath the whorror lay deeper,
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harder questions. How had a home built on love turned
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into a battleground and what darkness could twist a child's
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heart into seeing their own mother as the enemy?
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How you doing so far? I feel like this is
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gearing up to be very intense, But it's interesting how
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the children have the same age gap as me and brother. So.
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Susan Bailey grew up just outside Saint Paul, Minnesota, the
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second of four children. She had an older sister and
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two younger brothers. From a young age, she showed a
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gift for music, playing both the violin and the clarinet.
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Summers were spent at her grandparents resort, where she cleaned cabins,
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hooked meals, and helped with landscaping. But it wasn't all work.
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Susan and her siblings had plenty of time to swim, fish,
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boat and play games. After high school, Susan enrolled in
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a community college, focusing on business and accounting. She dreamed
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of working in the fashion industry. While in school, she
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took a job in the Levi's store, combining her love
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of fashion with a strong work ethic. By the late
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nineteen eighties, Susan was ready for a change. Tired of
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the long, snowy Minnesota winters and craving a fresh start,
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she packed up and moved to California. She landed a
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job at a clothing store and soon became a stylist.
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Her customers loved her eye for fashion, especially the outfits
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she put together featuring her favorite color, pink. Not long after,
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she met Richard Bailey, a slight man with brown hair,
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brown eyes, and a small mustache. He was in the
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Air Force. In March nineteen eighty eight, Susan surprised her
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parents with the phone call She and Richard were married.
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Married life meant frequent moves, and Susan's college dreams were
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soon put on hold as she followed Richard's military career.
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In nineteen ninety, Richard left the Air Force and joined
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the Coast Guard. That same year, their first child, Jennifer,
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was born. Susan continued working in retail, often juggling long
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hours to support their growing family. After a brief stint
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with the Coast Guard, the Baileies moved in with Richard's
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parents in San Bernardino, California. Richard worked off and on,
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but never held a job for long. Susan, always driven,
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became a store manager at Jay Jacob's, a trendy boutique
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for teen girls. Four years after Jennifer's birth, their son, David,
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was born. While Susan worked, Richard's father helped take care
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of the children. In nineteen ninety seven, Susan was offered
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a promotion to district manager, overseeing stores across Oklahoma, Texas,
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and Louisiana. The family relocated to the Dallas Fort Worth area.
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Susan traveled often for work, while Richard and the children
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stayed behind. They hated Texas, often talking about how much
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they missed California, but Susan was the family's main source
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of income, and the job was in Texas, there was
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no going back. They eventually settled in Roanoke, a small
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town of about ten thousand known as the unique Dining
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Capital of Texas, with more than sixty restaurants in shops. Wait,
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hold on, so, by unique dining cap do they mean
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like novelty restaurants, like unique restaurants or can you explain that?
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Do you know anything more?
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Well, that is a good question, and I don't quite
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have an answer for you. But the town is about
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twice the size of our.
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Town, and how many restaurants are in our town, like