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Hi. I'm Tina, and I'm Rich. If there's one thing
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we've learned in over twenty years of marriage.
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It's that some days you'll feel like killing your.
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Wife, and some days you'll feel like killing your husband.
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Welcome to love, Mary Kill, Hi Rich, Hi Tina.
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How are you.
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I'm doing good. How are you?
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I'm a little sleepy, but I'm otherwise great. I'm glad
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to hear I am looking forward to being done with
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the Menanda's case and moving on. I bet you are
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a lot of times when we do these three part episodes,
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or I guess when I do them, I have a
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lot of dreams about whoever we're doing the case on,
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and it's hard to shake it. Yeah, because you really do.
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You're immersed in the story and you feel like you're
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part of the story, and I want to make sure
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that I'm doing the story justice.
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Yeah. And it's been a few days since we recorded
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part two, so you've been living with this story for
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and I know that you worked on it for a
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long time, so you've been it's been in your head
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for quite a.
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While weeks, Yeah, since Christmas. It's Monday, February sixteenth. Thank
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you so much for the wonderful Valentine's Day gift you
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really shouldn't have.
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You're so welcome.
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I mean, how many carrots was that?
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That joke never ever gets old.
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Well, you never seem to take the hint. But it's
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still freezing here. We're still in the tundra.
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Yeah.
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Today, on the way home, I went out and it
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was about three o'clock and I was driving by the
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middle school fifteen degrees. What do you think the middle
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school boys were wearing.
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A light sweatshirt, maybe a little sack hoodie or something
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like hoodies unzipped.
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Well, they had like, you know, hoodies and yeah, but
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pretty much all of them were wearing hoodies and no jackets.
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But none of them were wearing shorts. But that cracks
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me up because I remember when our son was that age,
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it was like jackets. I'm not sure why, but jackets.
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You know, they're like allergic to them or something.
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Yeah, but it's it's pretty cold here. I thought that
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maybe we could get away this weekend and go a
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few hours south, but even you know, four or five hours,
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it's still really cold. So it's not just us. We're
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in good company.
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I was talking to a colleague that lives in Austin, Texas,
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and he was saying they got they got like an
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inch of snow, which wouldn't be a lot for us,
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but for them. Yeah, they had two days off school
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because of that.
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Some of our Australian friends have been sending me pictures
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of their beach vacations and it looks pretty nice to end.
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Some California people too, So they're doing okay, but most
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of us are still really cold.
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Yeah.
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So the other day opened Netflix and I was really
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surprised to see a popular podcast is now featured on Netflix.
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And I'll be honest, I was a little envious. Yeah,
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our competitors who are like two billion times more successful
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than we are, Murder with my Husband are now on Netflix.
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I know Netflix is going big into podcasts. I also
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saw I think it was last podcast on the Left
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is there as well.
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Isn't that one kind of controversial?
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I don't really know a lot about it, but yeah,
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it was surprising because it was like the featured thing
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on Netflix.
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Was so it's more than just Murder with my Husband.
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Yeah, it is that. I've read that they're going big
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into podcasts, but they're they're.
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Only I've gotten no calls.
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Well, they're only doing video podcasts. Yeah, people who do
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video and we don't do video.
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Yeah, should we? Should we do videos? Should we put
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ourselves out there?
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I think we're pretty both pretty comfortable with the decision
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not to.
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Well, what they wonder is how you keep recording? Do
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they stop? Do they break it? I don't know.
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I didn't watch, but you shrinking a.
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Lot because I make a lot of mistakes and.
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We had to go back and I'm sure there's some
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editing involved. But yeah, I'm curious about that too.
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Yeah, So I'm curious if you guys have watched the
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podcasts and how you feel about them.
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And if anyone out there works for Netflix and you want,
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you know, maybe a slightly lesser known audio only podcast to.
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Be on Netflix boring. I'm sure people don't want that.
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We've talked about this a lot. We have chosen to
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put our faces out there, and I'm still very comfortable
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with that decision. Sane, Well, I did bring you a snack.
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It's something that I made a few days ago, and
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I guess you haven't partaken in them. But I made
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some brownies, just a Garadeli mix. I have a problem.
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I can't just make a Gharadeli mix. But I put
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some caramel in them and chopped up symphony bar on
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top and some chocolate chunks, and then I frosted them
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so they weren't there. I'm sending them to someone beloved
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and special, so kind.
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To make them special. Well, yeah, I'm excited to try them.
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All right, Well help yourself, all right, so rate my brownies.
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What did you think?
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Oh? Kind of a ten?
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Easy?
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I mean, the Ghara Deli mix is so good. It's
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just chocolate e and then your additions I think helped.
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I think it adds just more. You know, it's a
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little decadent, but it's really good.
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Yeah, they are. They are cut very small. I should
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point that out. Yeah, I like things to be chunky.
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Well, the heaven the frosting on top is really a
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a key.
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Equipaking comment on you. I said I like things to
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be chunky, and you didn't. I was not body shaming you.
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You are perfect just the way you ask.
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That's why it didn't even occur to me that you
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were talking exactly.
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Thank you for coming back to part three of the
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Menandaz Family.
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I am excited to hear it.
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You're happy to get this wrapped up. I bet no.
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I'm just interested because I really didn't know much about
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this case before we started, so I'm interested in hearing
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the rest of the story.
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Well, I'm going to give this content warning one more time.
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Today's episode we really do get into deeply into some
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of the dysfunction in the family. This episode contains discussion
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of murder, family violence, and allegations of sexual abuse involving minors.
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Listener discretion is advised. Do you want to give the summary?
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Sure? In part two, we talked about the build up
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of family stress that led to the brothers thinking their
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parents wanted to kill them to keep their family secrets.
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So the brothers struck first, violently killing their pain parents
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in their Beverly Hills mansion. After the murders, Lyle seemed
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largely confident and unbothered, but Eric visibly unraveled and sought
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the help of psychologist Jerome Ozeal. He confessed to Ozell,
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who had been taping the session. After six months of
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extravagant spending and making plans for their new lives, Lyle
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and Eric were arrested after the police were tipped off
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by Ozell's mistress, Judelan Smith. Before their trial, began. Lyle
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and Eric decided to confess to their family they had
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killed Kitty and Jose, but only after sustaining years of mental, physical,
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and sexual abuse. Their attorneys made a pivotal decision to
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use this as their defense. The strength of the state's
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case largely hinged on whether the taped confession would be
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allowed as evidence. The trial unfolded just as Court TV
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launched and the rise of the twenty four hour news cycle,
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ushering in an era of true crime as entertainment. America
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and much of the world became captivated by the Menendez
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brothers trial.
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In July nineteen ninety three, nearly four years after Kitty
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and Jose's murders, the trial began. The brothers were tried together,
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although there were two juries because the state had had
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different evidence against each brother, but they both faced the
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death penalty. On July eighth, nineteen ninety three, seven women
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and five men were sworn in as the jury for
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Lyle Menendez. One week later, a separateury was seated for Eric,
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made up of six women and six men. Judge Stanley
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Weisberg presided over the trial. He became a household name
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in LA after the nineteen ninety three Rodney King trial,
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and years earlier, he had presided over the McMartin preschool
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trial during the Satanic Panic of the nineteen eighties. Do
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you remember this? We covered that in an episode briefly.
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That was one of the longest trials in US history.
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Do you remember how long?
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No? I don't.
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Do you want to take again? Yes?
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Like, I don't know eight months?
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No, it was two and a half over two and
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a half years. Prosecutors Pam Bozanitch and Luster Kuriyama argued
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the case for the state, with Leslie Abramson and Jill
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Lansing representing the brothers. More than a dozen Menendez family
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members testified, including cousins and an aunt. They paid a
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consistent picture of Jose as harsh, controlling, and frightening. Behind
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closed doors, they described a man who demanded absolute obedience
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and used humiliation and intimidation as tools of discipline. Family
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members were called being uncomfortable around him, watching the boy's
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shrink in his presence, and sensing that the household operated
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under a constant threat of punishment. Kitty, they said, was
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emotionally unstable, deeply unhappy, prone to rage, and she became
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increasingly dependent on medication over time. From their perspective, the
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home wasn't nurturing. It was tense and unpredictable.
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Now do you know if any of these relatives that
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testified were on Jose's side as well as Kitty's side,
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or was it just one side of the thing.
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It was both sides. Remember we talked about this in
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the last episode, but all but two relatives Kitty's brothers
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were completely in support of the brothers. Craig Signorelli, one
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of Eric's closest friends, testified that Eric confided in him
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about sexual abuse by his father years before the murders,
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not once, but multiple times. He described Eric as terrified, ashamed,
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and desperate, talking about the abuse in hushed conversations that
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felt more like confessions than accusations. Donovan good Row, Lyle's
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friend who had secretly lived in his dorm room, testified.
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Despite previously telling journalists Robert Rand and Lyle's attorney Jill Lansing,
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that Lyle had confided in him about abuse by his father,
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Donovan denied it on the witness stand, shocking Lyle's attorney.
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This journalist, Robert Rand, we talked about him. I think
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in the first episode his book was one of my
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primary sources for these episodes, and he is very invested
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in the case. He's very supportive of the brothers and
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he has met with them numerous times. He knows them well,
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he knows the story better than anyone. So he had
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sat down with Donna van Goodrou when he had a
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tape of this interview with him. When he says, yet
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he told me many times that he had been abused
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by his father.
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It's really shocking that they would change there, that he
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would change his testimony. Then yeah, But.
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Robert Rand had an audio tape of the interview, and
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Lyle's attorney, Jail Lansing, knew it. Rand had unintentionally done
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what every journalist tries to avoid. He'd become part of
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the story. To avoid being subpoenad he decided to play
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the tape on a local news channel that night. Then
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he was forced to hand over his tape of the
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Gaudreaux interview. The prosecution wanted him to be banned from
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the courtroom in case he might have to testify later,
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but the judge allowed him to return to continue reporting
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on the trial as a journalist. So this event was
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really stressful to him. Because he knew that Donovan Goodrow
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was lying, because he'd not only had discussions with him personally,
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but he had also talked to Jill Lancing about it too.
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So it was odd that he would deny knowing this.
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Very odd and I can see as a journalist that
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puts you in a very awkward situation because when you're
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a journalist, you want to protect your sources, and you
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know you can report on things that they say, but
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you're not.
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You don't want to reveal them.
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about it.
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How much do you remember about Jerry o'zel or Jerome o'zeel.
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I remember he was pretty shady as a psychotherapist and
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that he was having an affair with this Judelan Smith,
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and she lived with he and his wife for a
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period of time.