Advocacy / Domestic Violence
Love should never make you feel afraid.
Abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, digital, and financial abuse. These resources were created with women in mind, but support is available to anyone experiencing harm in a relationship. Even if you are not sure whether what you are experiencing is abuse, you can still reach out. You do not have to wait for an emergency to ask for help.
You are not to blame. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and free to make your own choices. A trained advocate can listen without judgment, answer questions, and help you think through your options. You will not be pressured to leave or make a decision before you are ready.
Help is available now
You can connect with a trained advocate any time, day or night. Support is free and confidential throughout the United States.
Recognizing abuse
Abuse is not always physical. It can be any pattern of behavior used to control, frighten, isolate, or take power away from another person. It may start slowly, change over time, or continue after a relationship ends.
- Checking your phone, location, messages, or social media without your permission
- Controlling your money, work, transportation, medication, or important documents
- Keeping you away from friends, family, work, school, or your community
- Humiliating, threatening, blaming, or frightening you
- Pressuring or forcing you into sexual contact or decisions about pregnancy or contraception
- Hurting you, your children, people you care about, pets, or belongings
Practical resources
Start with whatever feels most helpful today. Visiting these websites may leave a record in your browser history. If someone may be monitoring your activity, consider using a safer device if one is available.
Make a safety plan
A safety plan can help you find ways to stay safer while living with abuse, preparing to leave, or after leaving. Every situation is different, and an advocate can help you create a plan that fits your life.
Start safety planning → Find shelter and support nearby
Search for domestic violence shelters and support programs by city or ZIP code in the United States and Canada. An international directory is also available.
Find local help → Learn about your legal options
Find clear, state-specific information about protection orders, custody, housing, workplace rights, and free or low-cost legal help.
Visit WomensLaw → Protect your technology and privacy
Learn how to respond to location tracking, strengthen account security, check connected devices, document harmful behavior, and protect yourself from technology-based abuse.
Explore technology safety → Get help with financial abuse
FreeFrom offers survivor-led tools for recognizing financial control and working toward greater financial security during and after abuse.
Explore financial resources → Find support after sexual violence
RAINN offers free, confidential support around the clock. Call 800-656-HOPE (4673), text HOPE to 64673, or connect through online chat.
Contact RAINN → More ways to connect
You deserve support that understands your experiences, identity, culture, and communication needs. The following services are free and confidential.
Support for Native survivors
StrongHearts Native Helpline offers culturally grounded support for Native Americans and Alaska Natives, 24 hours a day.
Call 844-762-8483 → Support for Deaf and hard of hearing survivors
The Deaf Hotline provides advocacy in ASL through videophone, email, and live chat, 24 hours a day.
Call 855-812-1001 by videophone → Support for teens and young adults
Love is respect offers support for young people with questions or concerns about dating and relationships. Call 866-331-9474 or text LOVEIS to 22522.
Visit love is respect → Support outside the United States
Search for domestic and sexual violence services by country and region.
Find international support → Supporting someone you care about
A caring, judgment-free response can help someone feel less alone. Trust that they understand their situation best, and respect their right to decide what happens next.
- Listen to them, believe them, and remind them that the abuse is not their fault.
- Ask what would feel helpful. Avoid taking control or confronting the person causing harm.
- Protect their privacy unless someone is in immediate danger or you are legally required to share information.
- Offer practical support, such as a safe phone, transportation, childcare, document storage, or company while they contact an advocate.
- Keep showing up. Leaving can take time, and separation can sometimes increase danger. Do not shame someone for staying or returning.
Awareness is only the beginning.
Learn to recognize the signs of abuse. Speak up when language excuses control or violence. Respect survivors and the choices they make for themselves. Share trusted resources privately and carefully. You can also donate to or volunteer with a local domestic violence program. Local advocates understand the needs of the people and communities they serve.
Find ways to help →