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Hi, I'm Rich and I'm Tina.
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And if there's one thing we've learned, and over twenty
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years of marriage, some days.
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You'll feel like killing your husband.
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And some days you'll feel like killing your wife.
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Welcome to love, Mary Kill.
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Hey Tina, Hey Rich. How are you today?
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I'm good? How are you?
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I'm good. I'm getting a little tired of this air quality.
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We've been an air quality alert it's like every day
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for a few weeks now.
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Yeah. Yeah, it's affecting us both a little bit.
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I think it is.
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Yeah, I'm slightly asthmatic and it just I don't know.
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You can just see sort of a haze in the
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air and you just feel kind.
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Of like disoriented.
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Yeah, a little bit.
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When we're on vacation in Illinois and Wisconsin, it followed
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us there too, Yeah, from the Canadian wildfires. I was
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looking at a map today and it's pretty bad. There's
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a lot of fires all over Canada.
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Not good.
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Yeah. The whole Upper Midwest I think is a fact.
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So it's not just you know, like Michigan and Illinois,
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but you know, even further east.
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Yeah. And to make matters worse, I've had a song
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stuck in my head for three days. Yeah, and I
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can't get rid of it. And I just figured out
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what it was. I didn't know what it was. I
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just had this song in.
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My head that happens to you a lot.
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And I figured out it's a video. It was a song.
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It's a Chapel Roane song. But what I have in
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my head is this little kid did a video, a
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spoof of this Chapel Roane song, and it went viral
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and it's it's called hot Dogs Are the Stinkin' Best,
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Stinkin' Best. Yes, okay, so little kid did and he
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goes a jo tdogs hot Dogs are the stink and Best.
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And I've had that in my head for three.
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Days, serenading us. It was very nice.
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You're welcome. It's just a glimpse inside my brain.
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Rich does sing pretty well?
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Oh yes I do.
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Not.
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I don't think I do either, but think.
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No, you do. Really. Before we started recording, I went
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and got some ice and refilled the ice trays, and
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it cracked me up. A couple of weeks ago when
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we talked about that, because our content is so riveting,
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how many people comment and we're like dummies, just go
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get like you know, an external ice maker. Yeah, and
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there's a reason why we haven't done that. It's because
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I just don't want to put something on the counters.
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But then I feel really bad about getting a new
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refrigerator because what happens to your old refrigerator. I don't
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think anyone would want it with a broken ice maker,
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And I feel bad about putting a big refrigerator in
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a landhouse.
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It's a big quandary.
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It It's really not. There's people with bigger problems in
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the world, but yeah, it's it's I don't know.
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I did notice you filled up the ice tray again,
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so when I went and got my water, So thank
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you for that.
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I try, and you're a very considerate person, and you
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do it sometimes too, so sometimes yeah, yeah, no you.
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I think we're fifty to fifty almost, not quite, not
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that I'm keeping score, all right. Do you have a
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snack for us? I do.
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It's not the most exciting snack because we were on vacation.
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I didn't have a lot of time to plan. Last time,
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we had the great snack that are listener Carlos sent,
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So this time I just have a gas station snack.
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I went to the gas station and I picked out
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a couple of things, and one of them is.
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Why I see they're open.
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Well, yeah, I hate some These are cheese curls, but
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they're alipeno flavors. I know you don't love halopeno, but
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I know you like cheese curls, and they're actually much
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more cheesy than they are halopenia. Yes, then I'm sorry
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I dropped the other one. And then I have these
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Buddy Muddy bites. These are waffle cones.
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I have had those before, okay, but not in a while.
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I think I got them at like TJ Max. You know,
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when you a TJ Max and you're waiting in line,
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they always have some random snacks there. Yeah, so all right,
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I'll give them a try.
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All right, Well, how did you enjoy the halopenno poppers
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and the body bites?
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Before I answer, I'm going to tell you about a
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report I read today about how ultra processed foods are
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really shortening your life expectance. And both of these I
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think are ultra processed. You know, I kind of like
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the jalapeno poppers. You were right, they were kind of cheesy,
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and it's like the fat cheetos, not the crunchy Cheetos. Yeah,
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they're good. I give them up. I don't know, six
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and a half out of ten, and the muddy Bites.
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I like the filling, but I have this weird I
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don't like ice cream cones. You know this, don't you know? Okay,
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we'lly been together for four hundred years, but you don't
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know that. I don't like to go get ice cream.
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I always get in a dish, and I.
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Just thought that's because you didn't like, you know, the
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ice cream cone. It's kind of it can drip and
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it can get messy. I thought it was more that.
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Would listen to me. I don't like ice cream cones,
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and I don't like Fortune cookies. I think there are
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similar taste, So anyway, I like the chocolate, but I
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didn't really love the ice cream cones. I came six
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out of ten.
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Okay, that's about it as good as I could hope
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for with that snack.
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Yeah, No, I appreciate it. Appreciate your effort.
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Should we get back to the case of Carol Kennedy
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and Steve Democher, Absolutely, would you like to give us
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a recap?
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No? Why don't you go ahead and do that? No,
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I'll do it last time. We introduced you to Carol Kennedy,
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a devoted mother, artist, yoga instructor, and counselor who spent
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years trying to hold together a marriage that was slowly
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breaking her down. Her husband, Steve Democher, was once an adventurous,
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idealistic man she believed was her solemate, but over time
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that image unraveled. He became very materialistic and cheated on
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her repeatedly, including with students, coworkers, and his longtime assistant,
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barb Onnon. He racked up enormous debts while living a
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lavish lifestyle, all while accusing Carol of being the one
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who was financially irresponsible. Carol finally filed for divorce in
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two thousand and seven, and after a long, painful negotiation,
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the marriage was officially over in May of two thousand
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and eight, but the fighting didn't stop. Steve was behind
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on alimony, Carol was worried about money. Intentions remained high,
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especially as their teenage daughter Charlotte sided with her father.
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Then on July second, just ten days before Carol was
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set to visit a new romantic interest in Maine, she
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was found dead in her home. The scene appeared staged
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a ladder, a toppled bookshelf, and a fatal head wound
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that was far too severe to be accidental. Her mother, Ruth,
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had been on the phone with her when it happened.
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The last thing she heard was Carol saying oh no,
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followed by silence. So you mentioned Charlotte, But there was
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another daughter too, Katie.
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Katie was their oldest daughter. She was in college. She
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had just left for a trip abroad. She was going
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to study in South Africa, and she had left maybe
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three or four days before Carol was killed. On the
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day that Carol was killed, Wednesday, July second, her sixteen
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year old daughter Charlotte, was spending the day with her
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boyfriend Jake Janisek. Just the day before, Jake had temporarily
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moved into Steve's condo. He had been having problems at
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home with his parents, and Steve offered to let him
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see while things cooled off. That afternoon, Charlotte and Jake
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had Launch then stopped it Safeway to pick up some cookies,
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delivering them to Steve's office at UBS Financial Services at
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four thirty eight pm. Steve logged off his work computer.
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By four point fifty two he was back at his condo,
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opening the security gate with his remote. He told Charlotte
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and Jake that he was heading out for a long
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bike ride and he changed into his workout clothes and
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left just after five o'clock. And just a reminder that
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Carol's phone call with her mom ended right around eight
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o'clock PM, and presumably that's when she was killed.
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Okay, since we've returned from vacation, our cats have been
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they've been having a separation. Leave ye a long Cosmo
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is in the room and he's making some loud mewing noises.
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You hear that. Don't be alarmed, all right? So Steve
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left for his long bike ride just after five. At
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five thirty six, he turned off his cell phone as
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the sun began to set, and eight pm came and went.
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Steve still wasn't home. Charlotte wasn't too worried at first,
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they often ate dinner after eight, but it started to
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feel strange that he hadn't returned. She tried texting and
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calling him, but got no answer. She even called Renee Gerard,
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Steve's girlfriend, to ask if she knew where Steve might
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be riding, but Renee didn't know Charlotte and Jake eventually
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dozed off for a bit, then woke up around nine
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forty pm. Steve still wasn't home. It had been dark
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for nearly two hours. They tried calling again, but still
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there was no response. At ten pm, they decided to
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head to safeway to grab ingredients for a late night stirfry.
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This kind of cracks me up. The two sixteen year olds.
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Their dad is missing for like four and a half hours,
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and they're like, oh, let's go get food, let's go,
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let's go make a stirfry.
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Well, he had so many women that he was seeing,
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so yeah, it probably happened a lot where he just
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didn't come home sometimes.
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Yeah, that's probably true.
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Charlotte's sixteen.
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Yeah. Soon after Charlotte and Jake left for a safeway,
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Steve turned his phone back on at ten oh eight pm.
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He now had eleven missed calls and three texts, but
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he didn't listen to any of the voicemails. Instead, he
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called Charlotte, who was still that safeway, and he explained
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that he had gotten a flat tire and his phone
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had died. A minute later, at ten oh nine, he
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used his remote to open the gate at his condo.
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Then he called Renee and told her he couldn't come
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over that night. He was tired, dehydrated and needed a shower.
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She was annoyed not because he wasn't coming over, but
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because it sounded like he was making excuses. They hadn't
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even planned to see each other that night. Her first
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thought was that maybe he had been with another woman.
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Steve added another detail to Renee. He said he was bleeding.
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He said he had scraped his leg on a branch
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during the bike ride, and that his arms were scratched
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from walking the bike after he got the flat tire. Meanwhile,
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Carrol's brother, John Kennedy, had been trying to get in
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touch with Steve. Ruth, still deeply unsettled by the way
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her call with Carrol, had ended, had shared what had happened,
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and John had been calling around trying to figure out
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what was going on. Steve finally picked up at ten thirty,
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but before John could explain much, Steve cut him off, saying, quote, hey, look,
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I'm standing here, dripping wet, just stepped out of the shower,
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adding that he had been on a long mountain bike ride.
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John finally managed to explain the situation that Ruth had
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heard something alarming during her call with Carrol and was worried.
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John asked if Steve would drive over and check on Carroll.
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Steve said no, I will not they were divorced. He
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explained it wouldn't be appropriate for him to check on her,
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what if she had someone over After the call. Steve
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emerged from his bedroom wearing only a towel and asked
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if Charlotte or Jake had any laundry. He then started
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a load with just his workout clothes, something he later
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told investigators was completely normal for him. Jake noticed that
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Steve's scratches were bleeding and asked if he was okay.
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Steve said he was just tired. He'd had to walk
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over four miles back to his car after his tire
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blew out. Steve got dressed, ate dinner with Charlotte and Jake,
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and then casually mentioned the call from Carroll's brother. At
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ten forty eight pm, Charlotte texted her mom's phone saying
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she was worried. She tried calling both her cell and
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her landline and got no answer. That was unusual because
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Carol always answered the landline if she was home.
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And then Ruth, Carroll's mom calls Charlotte, she tried, She
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ignored the call and never called her back.
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Yeah, nice, Charlotte, I know. Then, just before eleven o'clock,
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Steve told the teens that a coworker had called to
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say that he had left his computer logged in at