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Hi. I'm Tina, and I'm Rich. If there's one thing
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we've learned in over twenty years of marriage, it's that.
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Some days you'll feel like killing your.
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Wife, and some days you'll feel like killing your husband.
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Welcome to Love Mary Kill. Hey Rich, Hey Tina, How
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are you? I am doing great?
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How are you doing great? Because the sun is shining
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or snow is almost melted, and it's it's like it's
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fifty four degrees here in Dexter, Michigan.
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I'm actually doing great because I'm flying to Florida tomorrow.
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But it is nice outside.
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Yeah, it does make you feel a little better. Just
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a quick reminder, if you don't want to listen to
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us prattle on for five to six minutes, then you
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can listen to Love Mary Kill just the facts, same case,
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but without the snacks and without the banter. Where are
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you going in Florida?
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I am going to Tampa Ah. I don't know if
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I've ever been to Tampa, actually, but I'm sure it's
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warm and sunny, which will be nice.
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It's going to be warm and sunny here, so so Ladi,
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I bet.
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It won't be quite as warm, but there will be
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fewer alligators. Here than there, I'm guessing.
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Also, speaking of alligators, we got a new toaster this week. Sorry,
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I just wanted to tell everyone about our new toaster.
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And I know that no, but that was a really
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big decision in our lives. I have been feeling like
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we talked about this earlier in the year, but empty
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nesters essentially now, and it was a big decision whether
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we go from a two slice to a for slice.
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And I'm going to be honest with you, I think
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lately I've been struggling a little bit with missing our
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kids because we don't really see them that often, and
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I think I've been feeling a little melancholy. So you
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were so nice when you were like, I think we
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should get the two slice, and I was like, I
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feel like that's too big of a decision to make.
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I need four slice toaster because it's going to make
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me feel like, you know, an old woman with you know,
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just a two sliced toaster. So that was a big decision.
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Well, you did a good job, really well.
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You said we should go with the four sliced toaster,
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so we did. I'm not going to tell you which
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one we got because.
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It's a beautiful machine.
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Though I spent way too much on it though, because
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I went with the pretty one.
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Well, it's really nice.
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It is beautiful. Yeah, all right, I got the Smeg.
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We got the Smeg.
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I don't. I'm assuming other people know what that means.
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I don't really, I've never heard of the smeag.
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I think the ladies know what we mean by this Smeg.
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It's not a very pleasant sounding brand name, but it's
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a very beautiful toaster.
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I have a snack today for you that one of
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our sweet listeners sent us.
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Oh, I always love listeners sent snacks.
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Jody from Pennsylvania sent these snacks and we feel kind
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of bad because a lot of times we have stuff planned.
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And when we did the Menanda's episodes, this were three
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in a row, and so Jody sent us a couple
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two or three weeks ago, and it probably should have
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been eaten right away, but we didn't eat them right away.
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I already had one spoiler alert. They are still delicious.
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But Jody sent us walnut kiffles from Pennsylvania Dunge Dutch Land.
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I've never heard of a kiffle before.
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It looks kind of like a klachis is that how
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you say? Like it's a rolled kind of cookie and
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these are walnut and they look like they're Jody. They
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held up great, Like I'm kind of surprised that they
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they're all still break it all.
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Yeah, would you like to try it?
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What did you think of a walnut kiffles?
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Oh? They were really good. It was so nice of you,
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Jody to send those along. They were really tasty. And
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I really like the outside, the coating the pastry or
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whatever that it sort of wrapped around.
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I like the walnut filling. I thought it was really good.
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If you would like to see what we're eating, you
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can go to Kiffl Kitchen Kiffle with ki f f
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l e Kitchen dot com and you can see all
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of their offerings. I'm going to read you just a
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little bit of what a kiffle is. It's the same
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thing as a kifful. It's a pastry that has origins
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as a crescent shaped role developed in Austria in the
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late seventeenth century. Legend has it that when the Turks
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from the Ottomanire tried to invade Austria through tunnels, they
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were discovered by bakers who were working through the night.
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The bakers alerted the townspeople who flooded the tunnels and
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saved Austria. To celebrate their victory, the bakers made rolls
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in the shape of the crescent moon of the Turkish flag.
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In actual fact, Polish troops helped repel the Turks out
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of Austria. And that pissant you think came from France
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is actually a variation of the Kiffel.
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I learned so much. When we record our episodes.
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We sure do. Thanks again, Jody, much appreciated. Well. Today's
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case is a devastatingly sad case. I need to give
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a content warning that it does deal with the death
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of a young child. This case was recommended by Amanda
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from Texas. So there's a very famous documentary about this
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case called Dear Zachary, So you might if you haven't
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watched that documentary, you might want to watch it before
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you listen to this episode, because I mean, we'll tell
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the the whole story, and obviously there will be spoilers.
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I watched it. Usually we don't share with each other
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the case before we do, but you recommended that maybe
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I should watch it, and I did, And I also
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recommend it just because it really gives you a sense
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of who the people involved are and were, and just
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it really helps you get to know the people.
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I'm not playing any clips in today's episode, but when
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you watch the documentary, you get to see, you know,
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the visuals, and you get to hear the voices and understand,
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Like you said, the people that we're talking about today, well,
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today's case is doctor Shirley Turner and doctor Andrew Bagbee.
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On Saturday, November three, two thousand and one, twenty eight
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year old Andrew Bagbee drove his on again, off again
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girlfriend of two years, doctor Shirley Turner, to the Latrobe
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Airport in Latrobe, Pennsylvania. He just ended their tumultuous relationship,
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this time for good, over lunch before she headed back
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to her apartment in Council Bluffs, Iowa. The pair had
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met in medical school at Memorial University of new Land.
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Forty eight hours later on Monday morning, as Andrew was
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leaving for his shift at the Latrobe Hospital, he was
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surprised when Shirley reappeared on the doorstep of his apartment.
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She'd driven for sixteen hours overnight from Council Bluffs to Latrobe.
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Andrew left her at his apartment and went to the hospital,
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they agreed to meet up at a park after he
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was done with work. He told his friend and chief
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resident doctor Clark Simpson, the psychotic bitch was on my
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doorstep this morning, but he assured his friend that everything
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was fine and he'd send Shirley on her way. Later
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that night, he made plans to meet up at Clark's
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apartment after seven pm. At five, Andrew headed to Keystone
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Park in his black Toyota Corolla. Later, an eyewitness reported
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seeing two dark colored vehicles parked side by side in
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the parking lot just after six PM, a Toyota Corolla
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and a Toyota rav four. The next morning, just after sunrise,
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Andrew's body was discovered by a man who was searching
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for a bertrain ernables in the park. Andrew was found
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lying face down in the gravel, still wearing scrubs, near
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the boat launch, a layer of frost blanketing him. He'd
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been shot five times with a twenty two semi automatic handgun,
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and he also suffered blunt force trauma to his head.
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He was shot once in the left cheek, once in
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the left side of his chest, twice in the rear
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after he'd fallen to the ground. And finally in the
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back of the head, with the gun pressed against his skull,
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singing his hair. Andrew's devastating murder was the first in
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a tragic sequence that would continue to unfold and weighs
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no one could yet imagine. David Franklin Bagbee met his wife,
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Kathleen Daphne Barnard, soon after he was discharged from the
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Navy in nineteen sixty seven. She was from the English
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countryside of Devon in Shatham, England, a landscape of rolling
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green hills, ancient moorland, and dramatic coastline where quiet villages
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sit between farmland and sea. It feels both pastoral and elemental,
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shaped by weather, history and a slower, more insular rhythm
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of life. She was in the US working as a
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traveling nurse midwife. Neither was looking for a long term relationship.
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In fact, Kate had stubbornly insisted she'd never marry, but
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after their first day to Disneyland, they realized they'd met
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their match. After four months, David proposed and they were
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married just weeks later in March nineteen sixty eight in Compton, California,
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when David was nearly done with his engineering degree, at
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cal State Long Beach, they decided to start a family.
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After trying for nearly two years spent in a cycle
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of hope and frustration, Kate became pregnant on September twenty fifth,
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nineteen seventy three. Andrew David Bagbee was born in San Diego, California.
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He was the only child for Kate and David, but
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they were content and fulfilled with Andrew their successful careers
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and a close network of friends and family. Kate worked
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as an obgyn nurse practitioner and David as a computer engineer.
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I'm just going to say, from watching the documentary, they
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just seem like great people. You would love them. If
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you watch the documentary, you'll just love Kate and David.
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Yeah, a great couple, right, I mean.
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They just seem like they fit together very well, and
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they both are good people in their own.
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Right, very good people. Andrew was a good student and
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made friends easily. He became an Eagle Scout at age fifteen.
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From a young age, he set his sites on being
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a doctor. He went to the University of California at Irvine,
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majoring in biology, but failed to get into any medical
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school post graduation. Disappointed, but undeterred, he applied to sixty
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medical schools the following year while working as a researcher
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at Stanford University. His perseverance paid off when he was
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accepted to Memorial University of Newfoundland in Saint John's for entry.
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In the fall of nineteen ninety six, he proposed to
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his girlfriend, Heather, his high school sweetheart, and together they
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drove over four thousand miles to their new home in Canada,
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but sadly they ended their engagement after their first year
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together in Newfoundland, but remained close friends for the rest
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of Andrew's life. Kate and David adored her and also
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maintained their relationship with her after the breakup. Despite his
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magnetic presence, Andrew was insecure in romantic relationships. When his
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engagement crumbled, it left a wound that never quite healed.
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My impression of Andrew after watching the documentary is just
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somebody who's so full of life. He just had so
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much going on and just you could just tell you
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was just a really outgoing, friendly person, had so many
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friends and just seemed like a lovely person.
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Yeah, this case makes me a little raw and emotional,
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but he reminds me of your friend Kevin a little
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bit mm hmm.
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Yeah. Definitely someone who just made friends really easily and
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someone who everyone adored.
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Well. He was best man in seven different friends' weddings,
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which I think is really telling. And again that reminds
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me of your friend Kevin who passed away a couple
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of years ago, and you gave one of the eulogies.
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He was the best man at our wedding, but he
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was also the best man at the other guy who
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gave the other eulogies. So anyway, that was really touching.
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But Andrews struck me as the life of the party.
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Yes. Shirley Jane Turner's parents met when her father was
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stationed in Saint Anthony, Newfoundland. After his deployment, he and
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his new wife went to Kansas together, his native state. Together,
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they had four children. Shirley Jane was born in Wichita, Kansas,
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in January nineteen sixty one. After her parents divorced, she
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and her three siblings moved with her mother, a Canadian citizen,
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to the small rural village of Daniels Harbor in Newfoundland,
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where they lived in extreme poverty, supported by government services.
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Shirley and her siblings all held dual citizenship. She was
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highly intelligent, and from an early age aspired to become
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a doctor. She was drawn to science and motivated by
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the promise of the financial stability she had lacked growing up.
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At age sixteen, she enrolled at Sir Wilfrid Grenfell College.
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Her friends recalled that she was quick witted, excepttionally bright, engaged,
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and always at the top of her classes, but also
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a little bit of an odd duck, never quite fitting in.
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In nineteen eighty she transferred to Memorial University of Newfoundland
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to study chemistry with the goal of becoming a doctor.
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After discovering she was pregnant in late nineteen eighty one,
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she married her long term boyfriend, a welder, and returned
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to the university to finish out the year. Her son
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was born in July nineteen eighty two. She continued at
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the university for another year before she and her little