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Hi.
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I'm Tina and I'm Rich. And if there's one thing
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we've learned and over twenty years of marriage.
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It's that some days you'll feel like killing your wife.
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And some days you'll feel like killing your husband.
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Welcome to love, Mary Kill, Hello Rich, Hello Tina.
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How are you.
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I'm doing good.
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I'm pretty good too.
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I'm glad to hear that.
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Yeah. I think spring has finally sprung here in southeast Michigan.
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It's a beautiful day. Yeah, but no place i'd rather
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be than right here recording this podcast with you.
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Same.
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So you came back for part two of Jen Ayre
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and Mark Girardo, I sure did. Yeah. So how did
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you sleep last night?
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Pretty good?
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Yeah, that's great.
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How did you sleep?
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You know?
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Eventually I slept fine. But Clover, the girl cat, she's
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a challenge and it's so hard because it's taken us years.
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I think we've had them for about three years now. Yeah,
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and it's taken her a long time to warm to us.
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And she still hasn't warmed to me.
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I mean she does sometimes so at night when she's
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being naughty, I don't want to yell at her, although
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sometimes you will yell at her. Because she just does
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all these annoying things, like our bed is made of wood,
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and there's a canopy on top, and the canopy is
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it can't be more than two inches wide, right, yes,
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but she jumps from a chair to the top of
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the canopy and then she just purchased her body there.
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And look, it really does look I'm not exaggerating, like
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something out of a horror movie.
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Looks like a gargoyle.
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Yeah. Well, even like she just kind of glares at us. Yeah,
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and she does that when she gets mad at me
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after I won't pet her when I'm trying to sleep
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at two in the morning. So then she purchases herself
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up there like a wrestler on the you know, like
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when a wrestler like dives down. Yeah, and she kept
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doing that last night to me, and I got really
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annoyed and I'm like, I really want to yell at her,
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and then she's scratching at the sheets. So eventually, like
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around I think three am, she finally left and I
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was said, good riddance.
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Somehow I slept through all of that.
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You're amazing, Well, I do have a snack for you.
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Our listeners have been spoiling us lately.
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I know, we have kind of a backlog of and sweet.
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Ashley sent us the snack that looks really yummy, and
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she wrapped it up so cute with a little bow,
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and everything got here perfectly fine. I think everyone worries
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about sending snacks. Oh this might break, and but everything
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was great. Ashley lives in Arkansas, and she said that
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these snacks are from Northwest Arkansas, or as they affectionately
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referred to it, NWA. Okay, so I have some cranberry
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pecan rolls or pecan rolls for you, and and some
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wild walnut honey. There's like walnuts and honey.
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Okay.
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I warmed them up in the air fire and we
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can drizzle put a little bit about her. I'm already,
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but we can chose a little bit swall nut honey
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on it.
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It looks still was interesting.
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What did you think of the cranberry pecan rolls and
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the wild honey.
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I really liked it.
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It was delicious.
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Yeah, I was. You and I were talking the other
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day because we've had a few listeners send us snacks
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and we're always a little nervous, like we don't want
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to dislike a snack.
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I always like, ten out of ten is the best
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thing I've ever eatn.
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It feels like a little pressure, and I was it's
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so nice.
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Of people to like take time out of their day,
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and shipping is really pricey, so it really is amazing.
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Yeah that anyone sends us anything.
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Yeah, and so I was a little nervous about this
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one because I'm not the biggest nut guy, and cranberries
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I don't really love. But this was really good. The
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role was just nice and light and flavorful and I
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love the honey and the.
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Yeah, it was delicious. Thank you so much, Ashley. We
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really appreciate it. Would you give it a ten out
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of ten?
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I would.
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It was nice too, because it was sweet, but not
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like overpowering over Oh my gosh, overpower say it overpoweringly?
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Thank yoush so embarrassing. And it looks like the roles
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came from stone Mill Bread. That must be their local
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to Fayetteville, Arkansas. So well, thanks again, Ashley. Really quick,
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before we get into the case, I'm curious what you
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guys do with your cats at night, because when we
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had dogs, we put them in a crate, and you
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know that was really good for all parties involved. But
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with cats, you really have no control. If we kept
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our door closed, they would definitely scratch at it.
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And want to get in.
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Yeah, for sure.
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So I'm just curious what you guys do with your cats.
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Are you ready to get back to Jennaire and Mark?
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I sure, am?
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Can you give us a brief synopsis?
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Jen Are and Mark Girardo had been married for twenty
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four years and together for twenty eight, with a relationship
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marked by its share of highs and lows. Mark, often passive,
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contrasted sharply with jen Ayre, who could be more assertive
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and even aggressive at times. The couple, without children or
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much family nearby, were content to focus on their pets,
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which they both adored. However, when jen Are lost to
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job and struggled to find a new one, her self
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esteem began to take a hit. The couple's dynamics shifted
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as Jennayre's sense of identity eroded. When Mark landed a
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new job in Delaware, jena Are stayed behind in South
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Carolina to pack up their life and handle the logistics
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of their move. This gave Mark six weeks of bachelor
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like freedom. During this time, he and his thirty three
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year old boss Meredith Sullivan Chapman began developing a work
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crush on each other, igniting an affair that would change everything.
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As we left off, Jenayre, ever perceptive, had begun to
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sense that something was off with her husband, though she
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couldn't yet put her finger on it.
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You forget a really important detail in your synopsis.
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Oh, I'm sorry.
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They both hate bananas.
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Oh, I forgot about that, And we both love bananas.
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And people actually pay money to listen to this podcast.
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Mark and Meredith exchanged their first I Love you within
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a month of meeting. It happened in the car after
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they had just left a basketball game on campus and
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were inching along stuck in traffic leaving the parking lot.
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It wasn't planned. Mark just blurted it out. Meredith didn't hesitate.
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She said she felt the same way. They had sex
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for the first time that night. But Mark was adamant
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their relationship wasn't just about the physical connection. Over the
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course of their relationship, they only had sex a handful
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of times. Their connection was more than just physical. What
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mattered to Mark, what he said really drew him in
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was the emotional connection. It felt effortless, easy, like nothing
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he'd ever felt before. Pregnancy scare soon followed. Mark's pant
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was instant visceral, but when the test came back negative,
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an unexpected sadness settled in. For a fleeting moment, he'd
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allowed himself to picture it. Tiny hands clutching his finger,
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Meredith's laugh echoing through a sunlit kitchen with her fatherhood
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felt tangible, even thrilling. It wasn't like the hollow maybe
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some day. Jen Eyre had dangled for decades a future
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that always seemed to retreat like a mirage. This could
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have been real, and part of him wished.
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It was so remind me. I don't know if we
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talked about it in part one, but did they did
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Jennare not want to have children or did they? Were
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they unsure that they wanted to have children or not.
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I think they'd wanted children, but they were kind of
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on the fence about it. And then time just kind
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of passed and they had a couple of moves, and
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I think it just never happened for them. Jennare planned
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to join Mark and Delaware in time for Christmas. He
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flew back to South Carolina on December sixteenth to help
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her pack up the remainder of their belongings. She drove
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the moving truck while he drove her car to Delaware.
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During this long drive, Mark called his best friend Mike
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to talk about Meredith. They'd been friends since high school.
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Mike was the only person that Mark could really confide in.
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Mark was torn. He was deeply worried about hurting jen Eyre.
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He didn't want to cause her pain, but he also
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couldn't ignore how strongly he felt about Meredith, how excited
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he was about a future with her. Do you remember
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Mike and Mark Berlin? Mike really didn't care for Jannire.
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Mike didn't hesitate follow your heart. He told Mark, you
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haven't been happy in years, maybe this is your chance
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to be. It wasn't the most morally sound advice, but
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it came from a place of honesty. Mike had seen
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Mark's unhappiness up close. He knew how difficult Jenniere could
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be and how disrespected and dismissed Mark often felt in
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his marriage. And the truth was Mike had never liked Jennire,
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and maybe deep down, Mark knew that Mike's dislike for
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Jannaire made it easy for him to say what Mark
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already wanted to hear Jenneire, since something was off almost
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the moment she arrived in Delaware. It wasn't just the
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possibility of an affair, though that crossed her mind. It
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was the way Mark carried himself distant, guarded, defensive. His
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energy had shifted. After two months of living on his own,
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he'd grown comfortable with his newfound freedom. She confronted him,
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what had changed? Why did everything feel different? He kept
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brushing it off, insisting nothing was wrong, until she snapped
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and screamed, just say it, you fucking pussy, and he
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did quote I went out. I want my independence. The
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words hung in the air, irreversible. He tried to walk
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them back immediately, but it was too late. At that moment,
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every alarm in Jennaire's mind went off at once. Since
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Mark had moved to Delaware and worked with Meredith, he
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talked about her non stop, how professional she was, how
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he was learning so much from her, and how upbeat
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she always was. Jannaire had filed all of this information
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away until now. She knew, deep in her gut that
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Mark was having an affair with Meredith, but he adamantly
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denied it, over and over and over. So Mark had
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the six weeks all to himself. Is that a dream
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come true for any man?
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Not for me? I don't know what you're talking about. Really, No,
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it would be a fun little vacation to be on
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your own for a few weeks, but six weeks a
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long time. I would miss you greatly. Hmm.
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Jannaire was nothing if not resourceful and scorned and all that.
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This is where the story takes a turn. Jenneire purchased
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a dozen tiny voice activated recording devices. She planted them
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in Mark's car and sewed them into the lapels of
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his suit jackets and pockets of his winter coats. This
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is illegal in the state of Delaware and probably pretty
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much every other state, we think, so each night, while
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Mark slept, Jennaire downloaded the contents of the devices and
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then re sewed them into his clothing.
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That must have taken a lot of planning and work
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and time to make that work.
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Just to wait. But Jennaire was no expert in spycraft.
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Most of the recordings she captured were muffled too much fabric,
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too much background noise, leaving a lot of the recordings
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distorted like voices underwater. Still, there was one recording that
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stood out beneath the static. She was certain she could
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hear moaning and whispered pillow talk. It sent her mind
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into overdrive. She played it again and again, trying to
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make sense of it, feeling equal parts vindicated and horrified
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as her worst fears were realized. Mark really was having
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an affair with his boss. Jenneyer emailed a former colleague
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and audio engineer, seeking his help to clean up the
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distorted recordings. Quote, please keep this between me and you.
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I am recording Mark with this new boss, trying to
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find out the truth. It's the only act of control
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I felt I have, and he is denying this affair
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to protect her reputation because of the conflict of her
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dating and employee. I need to catch them in the act.
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We were happily married in November. Before he left. We
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were excited about a fresh start. I am devastated and heartbroken.
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Mark has been hugging me and being nice, but he