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Hi, I am Rich and I'm Tina.
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And if there's one thing we've learned in over twenty.
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Years of marriage, some days you'll feel like killing your husband, and.
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Some days you'll feel like killing your wife.
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Welcome to love, Mary.
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Kill Hey Tina, Hey Rich?
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How are you?
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I'm great? How are you?
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I'm doing really good.
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It cracks me up how many times it still takes
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us to get that open.
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Sometimes it is surprising we've done it so many times.
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I'm having some allergies, so my voice cracked a couple
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of times, and then I.
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Felt a little loopy. I think my voice might be changing.
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I'm not sure that's what I Yeah, it was a
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Peter Brady moment.
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For sure, it's time to change.
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So I'm a little irritated, are you? Because we're halfway
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into September and it's still summer.
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You're ready for fall weather, aren't you?
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I mean, aren't you?
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I don't. I don't mind it.
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I don't mind the sweater. So that's what I guess
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I should have waited. And that's what made summer come
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back full horse, was that I bought some sweaters that
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I really wanted to wear.
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That probably did it.
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Yeah, Well, and you're I have to imagine a little
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disappointed too, because it's Saturday, I am recording and you're
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not able to put on your you could wear yours.
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I have a lot of great Michigan sweatshirts, you do,
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and they range from very light sweatshirts to heavy sweatshirts.
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So I'm prepared for the cooler weather. But when it's
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hot like this, all I have is this old T
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shirt and it's yeah.
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Well, and I the other day purposefully, I was at
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the mall and I was like, I'm going to stop
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at the m den, which.
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Is they sell all the Michigan gear, just.
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Everything anything you could want with the Michigan logo in it.
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And we have we shot there all the time, spent
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a lot of money at them, like we have Christmas
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ornaments there and just like we send gifts to people
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from there.
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And it's gone gone sad sad day in ann.
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Arbor Briarwood Mall that Christian Longo used to work at.
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No longer has an m done it. That's crazy to me.
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I could not buy you a new T shirt online.
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But anyway, so yeah, it's a bumber that we still
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have summer weather. Yeah, but I'm sure fall and winter
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will be here before we know it. But it's just
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a bumber when you know that the fall season might
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be a little shorter. Yeah, and then we go right
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to winter.
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Sometimes, true, we might not have much of a fall.
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So what do you have for us today?
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I have some snacks for you, I think there. Yeah,
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I have multiple snacks. This is going to be good.
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I did come just for the snacks.
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I know you usually do.
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So.
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I got a message at work a couple of weeks
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ago from a colleague of mine who I had never
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met before. And we're a pretty decent sized company, so
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there's a lot of people I don't know, but.
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In an international company, yes.
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We're international. And my colleague messaged me and he said,
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I just had to reach out because I just found
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out that my favorite podcaster works at the same company
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I do. So he was a listener of our podcast,
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but he didn't know that I worked That.
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Is Wild with him, so it was a favorite podcast.
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You are well, I mean, everyone rich to Tina. True,
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A lot of people have made it perfectly clear. But
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we're gonna move on.
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Yeah, we should move on. So it was really nice
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that he reached out and I of course asked him
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if he had any snack recommendations, and he he said, well,
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have you ever tried any snacks from India? And I said, well,
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we love Indian food, but I don't believe we've ever
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had any snacks from India.
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He just made a really good Indian recipe last year,
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really good chicken from half Baked Harvest. It was great.
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Yeah, it was great. So he sent me some recommendations
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and I ordered three things. So yeah, Ammonial is the
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my coworker who gave the recommendations. So yes, I brought.
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I bought three different snacks. One is uh, one is
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from Lays, but it is made in India, and it
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is Lay's West Indies hot and sweet chili flavored chips.
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Oh that sounds interesting.
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And then I've got these Masala Maruku crunchy spiced rice spirals,
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all right. And then there's these little hearts Britannia, little
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hearts that look a little like little heart shaped cookies.
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So no chocolate, no chocolate.
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Maybe in part three you'll get some maybe maybe, but
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should we take a break and try?
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Yeah?
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Absolutely, all right, How did you like our Indian snack assortment?
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That was so fun. I love an international snack. I
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really liked them. I would give the lays, which is
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kind of funny because here, lays would be they usually
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don't have ridges, and these are called lays and they
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have ridges. I know we have lays with ridges, but
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usually if you buy a bag of las chips here,
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they're not right. I would give these ten out of ten.
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Yeah, I love them too. They had a nice little
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kick to them.
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Like remind me of the paprika chips that we've gotten
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a couple of times. But yeah, these are amazing us. Please,
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I'm sure the lace people are listening. We need just
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spicier chips in the US. I just think it's a
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ten too. The Massala spirals, it kind of has the
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texture of uncooked pasta. Yeah, it's a little crispy for me.
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But I think they're good. Maybe you could dunk.
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Them and milkirk, yeah, would be good. Yeah, but I think.
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They're really Those were really good. I'd probably give them
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a seven out of ten. And the little hearts those,
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oh my gosh, there's so such a cute little Again,
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not really anything in the US that has a similar
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flavor or crunch factor. I guess it looks like a
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palmy palmier.
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Yeah, a little bit. That's what it kind of reminded
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me of.
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Yeah, just like I would give.
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That a ten.
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I'd give that a time out of time. The rice spirals,
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I would probably go with five out of ten. But
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you're right, maybe a few DiPT them or something had
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something with them, it might be better.
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Yeah, I mean it definitely an interesting texture, which I
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think Indian food has more, you know, textures and just
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crunch factors and things like that, but really.
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Inter yeah, yeah, it looks like a I.
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Don't know, how would you describe it.
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I mean, it looks a little bit like an onion ring,
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but it's like like spiral like more.
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But I liked it just because it was unique.
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Yeah, definitely unique.
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How much did you spend on those snacks?
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It doesn't you don't need to know.
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You really don't spare like a much sense on the
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snack sometimes, but it is really we both enjoy that
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part of it all.
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It is fun. And thanks thanks again Monial for listening,
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and thanks for the snack recommendations.
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So you purchase those snacks from Amazon dot com?
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No, and you oh no, it was a different company.
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Well link to them.
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I will provide a link to where I got them from.
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Great.
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Well, shall we get back to the story of Carrie
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and Matt Baker.
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Yeah, I want to know what happens here. Two more
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parts for us, so I know a lot must happen.
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There's a lot, a lot. Before we get into recapping
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part one, just I'll repeat the content warning from last time.
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This episode will contain descriptions of sexual assault that may
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be disturbing for some listeners. Please listen with care. If
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you haven't listened to part one, you should go back
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and do that now. But do you want to give
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us a quick recap?
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No, I really don't.
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I would like you too.
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Matt and Carrie Baker lived in Waco, Texas, home of
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Chip and Joanna Gaines. Do you know that?
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Do you know who those people are?
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Matt was a Baptist minister and Carrie was a teacher.
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She was. Did she teach elementary school and then she
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went on to be a college professor?
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She did, but she taught at college one night a week.
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She was full time elementarily. I think at the I
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didn't know if she went she's teaching third grade full.
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Time college professor. Matt is a horrible, horrible, horrible man. Yes,
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they Matt and got married after dating for only three months.
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Matt was twenty three and Carrie was twenty at the time,
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and Matt had a lot of an appropriate sexual conduct
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with women of different ages. Yes, starting a college, several
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young women and teenage girls came forward with sexual assault
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allegations against Matt, and we're talking like ten to fifteen, right.
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It was a lot, and with varying degrees of severity.
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Matt suffered very few consequences from these accusations, getting fired once,
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but in general he got off with just a warning
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and was able to continue on in whatever position he
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was in at the time. Had a lot of jobs.
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He worked at a lot of churches and with youth groups.
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Carrie and Matt had a daughter named Kenzie, followed by
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another daughter, Cassidy. Shortly after her first birthday, Cassidy was
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diagnosed with a brain tumor. Cassidy battled for weeks in
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the hospital before finally being allowed to come home. It
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seemed like she was on the road to recovery when
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she surprisingly passed away one night, and Matt had been
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the last person to check on her. And it was
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an odd situation because he checked on her twice within
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ten minutes, and Matt didn't seem to grieve the death
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of Cassidy at all. He was back to work within
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a few days. Carrie couldn't understand why he didn't hurt
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like she did. There was an odd situation in the
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hospital when he was like hitting on one.
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Of a friend of friend Carrie's cousin.
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Yeah, he was like, hey, let's just go to one
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of the rooms in the hospital, which Carrie sought counseling
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to deal with her grief, and within a year she
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was able to get back to most of her life activities,
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and she and Matt soon had another daughter named they
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named Grace. Matt continued with his pattern of assault and
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horrible behavior towards women and girls, and he had several jobs.
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As a seventh anniversary of Cassidy's death approached in the
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spring of two thousand and six, Matt and Carrey started
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having more marital issues and financial issues. Around the same time,
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Matt seemed taken with a twenty three year old Vanessa Bulls,
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who had started attending his church. I think he was
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at least ten years older at that time. Yeah, and
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they're back and forth emails talking about their marital struggles.
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Matt told Carrie that he blamed her and God for
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Cassidy's death because she had prayed for Cassidy to be
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free of pain, and he interpreted Cassidy's death as an
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answer to that prayer. Carrie was shattered by him blaming
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her and saying other extremely hurtful things. She told her
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mom that she was thinking of divorcing Matt, but as
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we'll see, she decided to keep making an effort to
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fix their broken marriage.
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The email he sent her that we read near the
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end of part one, it's just so horrible, Like, basically
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she was praying for Cassidy to be free of pain
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and he was like, God answered your prayer by taking
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her away, which is just a horrible, horrible thing to.
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Say, just super manipulative, and it just shows how much
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control he was.
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Yeah, he had in their marriage. And he also talked
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in the email about how he prayed for her to
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be well again and go to college and have a family.
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He was some big hero for making the right prayer
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and she made the wrong prayer. It's just, yeah, he's
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just a terrible person.
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True.
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We pick up our story on around March twenty eighth,
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which is about a week and a half before Carrie's death.
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While Carrie had previously refused to consider the possibility that