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Hi.
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I'm Tina, and I'm Rich. There's one thing that we've
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learned in over twenty years of marriage.
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It's that some days you'll feel like killing your wife.
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And some days you'll feel like killing your husband.
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Welcome to love, Mary Kill, Hi Rich, Hi Tina.
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How are you?
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I am doing good? How are you?
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I'm great? I feel like we've lived a whole life
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since we recorded part one. Can't you remember anything about
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part one?
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No? I was going to say, I really have no
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part what it was like a week ago. Can expect
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me to remember something that took place a week ago?
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Luckily for you, I wrote a recap that we'll read
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in a couple of minutes. But we just got back
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into town. We went to Marquette to see our son,
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who is breaking his mother's heart by not coming home
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this summer. But that's okay. Hey, do you want to
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tell everyone about the attempt that you took on my life?
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I don't remember that I remember what you did. No,
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you're gonna have to refresh my memory.
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I think the other night when we were in the Airbnb,
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I had a headache and I didn't have anything with me,
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and I said, hey, do you have anything for a headache,
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and you said yeah, and you gave me a couple
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of pills unidentified, and then I swallowed them. And then
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I said, what were those? Oh what do you remember?
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I think they were Motrin or I you.
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Provided many many years ago.
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Okay, yeah, yes, I don't think that will kill you though.
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I think that will just maybe not work as well
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as it should. But yeah, they expired in twenty twenty three,
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I believe, I live to tell. I carry them around
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in my laptop.
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I guess you're going to have to try a little
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harder next time, I guess. On our last episode, we
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read some reviews from our listeners that really touched our hearts,
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that were very kind. But I like for us to
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stay humble and keep it real, so I wanted to
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read a couple of maybe the more nitty gritty comments
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that we can it. This is from Rachel. It was
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a Spotify comment, by far, the most boring monotone hosts
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on a podcast I've ever heard. Wow, I'm thinking we're
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not that boring.
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I think this person must not listen to a lot
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of podcasts.
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But well, she left it on the Just the Facts episode.
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So it's always tricky for us because some people are like,
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I hate banter, but some people like a little more bantering, right,
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so we get both comments on either end. Do you
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have a couple of comments to read?
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I found one. This is maybe the rudest comment I've
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ever heard in my life, is from Jules. It says,
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go chiefs. I mean, that is just incredibly Oh.
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I have no problem with that comment personally.
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I'm just kidding. Okay, Well, most of the critical comments
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we've gotten lately are either about our pronunciations or about
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euthanizing cats, which I think we addressed in the last episode.
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But here's one. I'm starting the show from the earliest episodes,
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so I don't know if this changes as time goes on.
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But Tina interjects so much, oh my god, every other
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sentence she asked for clarification or shares an anecdote. Rich
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has the patience of a saint.
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He really does. Well, we have come a long way, yeah,
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and I don't think our podcast has. Would people say
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they're starting from the beginning, I'm always.
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Like, oh no, a little bit too.
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Yeah, but it's okay. We've grown and we've learned, and
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it's okay. If you don't love everything that we do,
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but we are trying our best. Remember, on our way home,
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we were driving by the Costco and I said, I
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know you don't want to, but we don't have any
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food at home, so we should probably stop. I do remember,
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but you refuse to go in the store. So I
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took one for the team, and I grabbed a couple
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of snacks that you didn't see because you were in
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the car. I appreciate it, and I think you're gonna
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like these. I got a variety pack of Tony's Chalk,
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a lonely old GM chocolate. I didn't know that this
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was not made in the United States. But there are milk,
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little mini Tony's milk, chocolate, milk, chocolate, caramel, sea salt,
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and chocolate caramel toffee.
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Hmmm, that sounds good.
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I don't think you're going to like these as much,
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but dark chocolate pistachio caramel.
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Clusters still sounds pretty good.
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Okay, you're not a big nut guy.
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No, but I am a big chocolate and caramel guy.
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Okay, which Tony's do you want to try? You can't
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have all three.
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Something with caramel in it?
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Okay, so what did you think? I read chocolate snacks
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today really good.
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I love the Tony's chocolate only, although it didn't see
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I didn't sense a lot of caramel in it, which
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was kind of weird because it's chocolate with sea salt caramel.
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But it was very good. The pistachio on your right,
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I didn't like it as much. A little bit too
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much pistachio for me, but it was still good. I
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like everything else about it.
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I actually preferred the pistachio caramel clusters. The brand is
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Copper Kettle Candy Company. I love them. I would give
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them a ten out of ten. They come in like
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a pistachio green package, so if you're at Costco, I
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highly recommend them. And the Tony's was really good. I
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had the milk chocolate pretzel toffee.
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Well this works out well. You can stick with the
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pistachios and I'll stick with the.
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Tony from you and I will dole them out if
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you're a good boy and you do good things. Okay, okay,
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what would you rate the snacks?
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I'd give the Tonys a nine out of ten and
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the pistachio Caramel's seven out of ten.
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Seven out of ten. I would give the pistachio Kramels
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ten out of ten.
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You already rated the.
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Eleven out of ten, and I would give the Tonys.
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I don't know. I felt like it wasn't as good
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as the big bars. Maybe that's just in my imagination,
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but I had that after the pistachio, so I would
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give that probably an eight and a half out of ten.
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Eight and a half.
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Okay, Well, thank you for coming back to part two
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of Michelle and Martin McNeil. Do you want to give
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us a recap?
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Sure? On April eleventh, two thousand and seven, Michelle McNeil, fifty,
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was found unresponsive in her bathtub, just days after undergoing
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a facelift. Her husband had strongly encouraged Martin. A doctor
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called it a tragic accident, but from the start the
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scene raised questions. Michelle was a devoted mother of eight,
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deeply rooted in her Mormon faith. Together, she and Martin
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had built a life that appeared successful and admired, but
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behind closed doors, it was beginning to crack. Martin's behavior
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had grown increasingly erratic and controlling. He had a long
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history of manipulation and deception, engaged in multiple affairs, and
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maintained a carefully constructed double life. As Michelle grew suspicious
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of him, he denied everything, often twisting reality to make
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her doubt what she knew to be true. In two
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thousand and five, he began an intense relationship with Gipsy Willis,
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a woman two decades younger. With the help of her
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daughter Alexis, Michelle uncovered the affair, only to be met
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with more denial. Around the same time, Martin claimed he
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was seriously ill, telling different people he had cancer, multiple sclerosis,
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or other conditions. In reality, he was diagnosed with HMPP,
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a non life threatening disorder, but he continued to act
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as though he were dying, rewriting his will and putting
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assets in Michelle's name, but no one realized what he
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was actually preparing for.
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Do you want to add anything to that?
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No, that was actually a really good reminder for me.
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But I think when Michelle discovered that he was talking
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to this gypsy Willis, I remember, like she looked at
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his phone records and there were calls at like two
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am and really late at night, and he was just
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completely gaslighting her right that. I can't remember what he
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told it.
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This was a tenant that was running one of their properties.
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She works nights. Yeah, so that's why she was calling.
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Alexis McNeil, a third year medical student, was not happy
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about her mother having such an extensive surgery that she
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deemed unnecessary and unsafe with her high blood pressure, Michelle
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was still beautiful and shouldn't feel the need to compete
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with Martin's younger mistress, Anne. Michelle was hesitant to go
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under the knife. Martin assured her that everything would be
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okay and that he'd personally see to her recovery. The
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surgery was scheduled for April third, Prior to her facelift,
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Michelle decided it would be a good idea to get
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a physical. Martin accompanied her and began answering for her,
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saying that she was healthy with no underlying conditions. The
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doctor became annoyed and asked Bartin to leave the room
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while he finished the examination. Went alone with the doctor.
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Michelle admitted that she had occasional heart palpitations and her
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blood pressure tended to be a little high. She also
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told the doctor that her mood had been low recently
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and she felt depressed. When he checked her blood pressure,
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it was one sixty over one ten or hypertension stage
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two one eighty over one twenty is considered a hypertensive crisis.
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So it was really high.
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He prescribed medication for her blood pressure, zola for her depression,
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and urged her to delay the surgery until her blood
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pressure was under control. After they left the office, Martin
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told Michelle that she would be fine and she should
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go ahead with the scheduled surgery. Michelle felt strongly about
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listening to her doctor, though she also wanted to lose
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a few pounds before the procedure, but Martin grew angry
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and snapped, you're having it now. I'm too busy, and
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Alexis is here to take care of you. If you
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don't have the surgery now, you're not getting it. Martin snarled,
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I already paid for the anesthesiologist and the operating suite.
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Alexis had come home for spring break to help care
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for Michelle post surgery and was shocked at the way
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Martin was acting. Michelle decided to move forward with the procedure.
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Two days prior to the surgery, the three mcneils went
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to doctor Thompson's office for a pre opt consultation. The
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doctor went over the medications he was prescribing seven ambient
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thirty vikadand for pain is needed, medrol to reduce swelling,
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an antibiotic cephlexen, and erythromyasin drops for Michelle's eyes to
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promote faster healing. Martin intervened. He told the doctor that
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Michelle had a low tolerance for pain and requested stronger medications,
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her casette rather than vicotin, along with lori tab elixir,
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a combination of hydrocodone and acidamnifin, and valuum to ease
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her pre surgery anxiety. Doctor Thompson capitulated to Martin and
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agreed to prescribe the extra medication. He was uncomfortable, but
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Martin promised that he'd personally oversee Michelle's recovery. The doctor cautioned,
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this is more medication than I usually prescribe. Be very
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careful and only take what you need.
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Couldn't Martin have prescribed medication to her if he wanted to.
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I know that wouldn't be necessarily ethical to do that.
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Well, I mean, I think you know where the story
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is going. If he would have prescribed, it would have
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for him. But I think that they would probably catch
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that at the pharmacy. If you know, third last names match.
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Right.
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The day before the surgery, Martin gathered his wife and
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children and told them that in case of his death,
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Alexis would be executor of his and went over his
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will and detail. Michelle was taken aback. Why wouldn't he
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choose her? He then handed out checks for five thousand
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dollars to each of his older children. They gratefully accepted
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the gift, but were confused. This was not like Martin
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at all. Early on Tuesday, April third, Martin and Alexis
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accompanied Michelle to the hospital. Martin gave her a kiss
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and said he'd see her later he was headed to work.
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The surgery took seven hours, and Michelle fared very well,
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though her face was heavily bandaged and her eyesight temporarily gone.
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In her book about this case, Shanna Hogan goes into
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great detail, like excruciating detail, and it sounds horrible, and
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I really don't want a facelift.
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Seven hours. See, I don't know anything about facelifts, but
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seven hours seems like a really long time. I wouldn't
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expect it to be that extensive.
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Pretty rigorous surgery, and she was having her whole faced on.
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Wow.
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The procedure was planned as outpatient, but Michelle wanted to
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stay overnight. When Martin arrived to take her home, he
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insisted could she be discharged, but doctor Thompson agreed that
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she should remain at the hospital. Martin grumpily relented. Alexis
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stayed by her mother's side, sleeping in an uncomfortable hospital recliner,