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We're getting out those decorations.
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Putting up the tree, and the kids are.
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Started downting down the back.
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The snot is faulting, people taking playing family Senbery is
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here and it's time for the holid days. Yeah, sleep boats,
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ringing cambos, playing some things in there.
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Hear that sound of Holland days ahead.
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Leaning on trees and rounding green A longest time to
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go round the Holland days ahead.
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Hey, rich, it's Christmas week.
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I know. If that song doesn't get you in the
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holiday spirit, I don't know what will.
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Are you ready for the big show, the big show,
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big dance.
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It's not as big of a dance for me as
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it is for Santa and his elves. But yes, no,
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I'm not ready.
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Actually you have five well four days really, yeah, plenty
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of time, plenty of time. I got a late start,
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but I am ready all right, Well not really, but
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you know, I think the shopping is done. Yeah, I'm
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in that stage of shopping where I ordered a lot
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of things online and.
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You don't know what you are.
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I've lost track. I had some panic buys last night
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at midnight. But I think everyone's taking care of for
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the most.
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Part, especially Christmas for you, and the packages come and
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you don't know what's going to be inside the packages
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because you've forgotten what you've ordered.
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Well exactly, it's like Christmas Morning for dads. You know.
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Dad's never really not that's not true. Some dads do
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all the shopping. Yeah, So our mail carrier has been
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a little problematic. And I don't know if it's problematic
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or not, but she has been leaving our packages either
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by the mailbox or she will literally sometimes throw them
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into a driveway. Yeah, like if it's a package of
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clothing in a plastic bag, she'll just throw it into
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the driveway. I'm curious if that's okay with other people.
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I understand that she's really busy, but it annoys me.
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Yeah a lot, as publicly the US Postal Service.
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Because I don't know what her name is. And I
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used to always be really diligent about giving something to
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the postal worker for Christmas because you had.
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Your dad from a long line of postal work.
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Yeah, and I think it's important to recognize them. But
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she's always kind of rough in the runway.
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Yeah, she really doesn't like to get out of the
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mail truck if she doesn't have to yeah.
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Which I can't blame her.
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I can't.
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You know, it's a hard job and I appreciate her efforts.
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Before I give you your snack, we have a couple
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of faint youes that we need to give. First of all, Allison,
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our very sweet listener who has sent us several gifts
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for our cats, Cosmo and Clover, sent me the sweetest
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Christmas gift. I had them on earlier, but I had
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to take them off when I put my headphones on.
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But they're cute, little black cat decorated for Christmas with
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so sweet That was just above and beyond. Thank you
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so much, Alison. A few weeks ago, around the time
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of your birthday, our listener Kimma sent you a gift.
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It was kind of a gag gift. I thought it
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was pretty funny. Do you remember what she said?
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Yeah, she sent Buckeyes, which are great. It was kind
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of a gag gift because they are branded in the
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Hiday State. Yes, yes, but Buckeyes are delicious. Chocolate peanut
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butter my two favorite flavors together. So yeah, thanks Kimma.
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Well, I do have a snack for you, actually have
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three snacks for you. Do you know that Little Debbie
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is finally getting the justice or so that I'll just
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see what I did there that she deserves.
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No, I did not know that.
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Well, America is obsessed with Little Debbies Christmas trees.
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Okay, and oh I love those Christmas trees are really good.
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Well there's Christmas tree dip, which is insane. You take
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that Christmas it's kind of like what you would do
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for cake bites and you put cream cheese in them.
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I didn't make that because you really hate cream cheese,
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even though I kind of wanted to try it. But
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I brought you the same.
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Oh, it's like a mashup of a nutty bar and
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a Christmas tree.
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Yeah, and then I brought you the donut, and I
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bought you, brought you the Christmas tree, and you have
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to rank them. Okay, so you have to eat three
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little stacks.
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All right, If I have to do it, i'll do it.
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I was going to make the Little Debbie Christmas trees homemade,
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but life's lifing. We'll be right back, do you hear that? So,
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so rank those snacks.
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They were all great, first of all, but I'm gonna
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go with number three is the donut. Nothing wrong with it?
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It was very good, a little dry.
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Maybe a little bit. That's why I'm rating the Christmas
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tree number two because it happened the cream filling in
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the middle. It was a lot like the donut, but
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a little cream. And the nutty bar thing was amazing.
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I do I'm crazy.
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Well, I'm a huge.
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Nutty bar fan anyway, and I'm a big little Debbie
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Christmas tree fan, so putting those two things together is great.
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Surprised you like the white chocolate coating on the nutty bar.
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Yeah, it was really good.
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Wow, I don't know who you are anymore. I'm going
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to go. They were all actually really good. I was
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kind of pleasantly surprised. Bad news. Those the Christmas cakes
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are hard to find it. I was really surprised that
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I found them. I was just looking a mire and
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they're not that they're sold out.
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Just like cherry chip cake.
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Hu.
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Well, we do have cherry chip cake now. But I
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would rank a donut, nutty bar and Christmas tree. Christmas
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trees are really young, Yeah, really good. We decided to
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revisit some of the very first cases that we did
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in our first months of podcasts many many years ago,
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not that many years ago. But this is a case
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that I have not stopped thinking about, and I'm going
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to reserve my opinion to the end. So hopefully you
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guys don't remember it too vividly. Do you remember this case?
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Not very well. I remember a couple of things about it,
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but I am interested to hear it again because I
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do remember that it was interesting, but I don't remember
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specifically what it was.
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Okay, well, here is a story of Sarah and Ryan Widmer.
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I did not rewrite this case. I haven't even reread it.
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I stand by the research, but the writing is probably
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different than the way we write.
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I think we've evolved a little bit, but we'll see.
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Monday, August eleventh, two thousand and eight, began like any
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ordinary evening for newlyweds Ryan and Sarah Widmer, but it
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would end in a tragedy that would devastate two families.
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Ryan twenty seven, Era twenty four had been married just
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one hundred fourteen days and were living in the Hope
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Well Valley Subdivision on Crested Owl Court in Mason, Ohio.
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By all outward appearances, they were a young, loving couple
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with their lives ahead of them. That evening, Sarah wasn't
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feeling well, so she rested on the couch while Ryan
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prepared dinner left over hamburgers, corn and potatoes. They spent
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a few quiet hours watching television, taking turns choosing the
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show until Ryan switched to the Bengals pre season opener
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around ten pm. Not long after, Sarah told Ryan that
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she was going to take a bath before going to bed.
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As she headed upstairs, she told Ryan, I love you.
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Don't forget to lock up. Ryan Whidmer was born and
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raised in Ohio. He has two brothers. One is his
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fraternal twin. Ryan's parents divorced in nineteen ninety. Ryan and
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his brothers didn't have a relationship with their father after
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the contentious divorce, but they were very close to their mother, Jill.
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Ryan's father was not invited to his wedding. Ryan was
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a nice, laid back guy who didn't like confrontation. He
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was quiet, but warm to people quickly. He played baseball
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and basketball in high school and went to Miami of
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Ohio on a partial baseball scholarship. He graduated in two
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thousand and four with a degree in sports studies. After college,
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Ryan worked at the Warren County Convention and Visitor Bureau
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in the Sports Marketing department. Ryan's love for sports made
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his job a good fit for him. Ryan was well
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liked at work and had been promoted several times within
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the Convention and Visitors Bureau. Ryan was key in promoting
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Warren County to become a tourist attraction. He worked hard
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on the Ohio's largest playground campaign and brought some interesting
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sporting events to the area like a jump rope competition,
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a junior golf qualifier, and a gymnastics competition. The office
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was like family, and Ryan was known for his good,
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kind and helpful spirit. In two thousand and five, his
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co workers noticed that Ryan was leaving every day at lunchtime,
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missing their group lunches. He was using his lunch break
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to take care of his ailing grandmother, who was dying
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from cancer. Ryan's biggest passion in life is sports, especially
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the Cincinnati Bengals. He was a proud season ticket holder.
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Sarah was also born and raised in Ohio. She has
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one brother, Michael, and in high school she played volleyball, softball, soccer,
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and was also a cheerleader. Sarah was beautiful and outgoing,
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with a vibrant smile and an infectious laugh. Although she
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was spunky and not afraid to speak her mind or
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stand up for herself when necessary, she was exceptionally organized
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and had an eye for detail. She had always loved
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going to the dentist growing up, so she decided to
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go to dental Hygiene's school and graduated in two thousand six.
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Sara's dad, Michael Stewart, died in March two thousand seven
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of malignant melanoma. He held a pH d In Martial
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Arts Sciences and Philosophy. He had trained some martial arts
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champions and even had copywritten his own self defense program.
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Sarah was a daddy's girl, so he must have taught
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Sarah a few things about self defense.
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PhD in Martial Arts Sciences and Philosophy. That is a
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degree I have never heard of before.
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Sarah was young and healthy, but chronically tired and frequently
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fell asleep in odd places, movies, parties, and bars. Her
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brother said that she'd had a history of falling asleep
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in the bathtub. Dana, Sarah's good friend, was going to
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nursing school, and she became increasingly concerned about Sarah's health.
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Sarah suffered from migraines, stomach aches and persistent exhaustion. Even
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at noisy family gatherings or Bengals games, Sarah would fall asleep.
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Dana encouraged Sarah to see a doctor two weeks before
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her death. Sarah did go for a physical, but either
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she didn't mention her exhaustion to the doctor or they
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failed to record it.
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Is it possible that Sarah had narcolepsy?
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She had just gone to the doctor two weeks before
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her death, so I don't believe she'd received any diagnosis
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at that time. But the symptoms do sound like narcolepsy,
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don't they. Yeah, But in the doctor's file there was
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no mention of Sarah's excessive sleepiness. Sarah was known to
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get to work a little early so she could take
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a nap before she started her shift. She often napped
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during her lunch hour or even between patients. She often
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took etcetern or ibewprofen for headaches, but she was able
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to adapt. Her health issues were typically only mild annoyances
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in an otherwise happy and act of life. When Sarah's
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coworkers were interviewed by police, they said that she hadn't
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been feeling well that day and she had a headache
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a sore throat and a sore neck. Chris and Dana
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kissed introduced Sarah and Ryan in August two thousand and six.
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Chris and Ryan were college teammates and roommates. Dana and
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Sarah knew each other through a common friend, Ryan third
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wheeled a lot with the kisss Dana loved Ryan, but
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she thought he didn't have any game with the ladies.
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She knew he wanted to settle down and have kids
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before he was thirty. Dana thought quiet, easygoing Ryan and sweet,
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spunky Sarah might just hit it off. The Kiss set
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up a double date at an Irish pub called Brazenhead.
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Ryan had never been on a blind date before, so
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he was nervous. But the double date was the right
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setting to set both Ryan and Sarah at ease, and
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they had a great night. They soon became inseparable friends.
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New things were getting serious when Sarah bought a Cincinnati
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Bengals jersey and asked her friend Chris to teach her
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about football. Dana remembers Sarah saying he's the one. Shortly
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after they started dating.
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I know it was serious with us when you bought
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your University of Michigan sweatshirt.
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You bought me one, actually, I remember. Things moved quickly
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for Ryan and Sarah. They bought a brand new house
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in February two thousand and seven. It was a perfect
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house for a young couple starting out, four bedrooms, three baths,
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and two two hundred square feet in a family friendly neighborhood.